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Conquer Public Speaking Anxiety

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I have a high paying Job

I have always felt confident talking to any one and in my earlier years was always the centre of attention and even played the leading roles in quite a few plays. I am now 42 and feel completly the opposite when I am expected to speak to more than a handfull of people. I have a high paying Job and run a company with over 50 employees. I feel relaxed and personel talking to all my staff but the second I have to do any presentation to my Employers or peers I turn into an emotional wreck with a very tight throat, quivering lips and sweaty hands. It has got to the point I am worried about my carere. I am probably going to win a prestigious company award soon and the thought of me doing an exceptence speach is enough for me to pretend I'm not well on the night so I don't have to attend.
 

Military Briefings...

I am in the military, a life that deals with briefings day after day. When I was younger, I did not have a fear of speaking in front of larger crowds. Now I'm 45, still in the military and for some reason as soon as I know I have to speak my heart starts racing and my voice always trembles. A hypnotist in California said if a person has had surgery, sometimes it can trigger a fear of public speaking so I thought maybe that was the problem. I would like to get rid of this fear as it could hold me back from future promotions.
 

Alcohol and Speaking

I am absolutely convinced that alcohol (not the day of) has something to do with speech impairment.  I tend to drink a lot on weekends and the withdrawal effects on the bodies central nervous system I know for certain messes me up.  When I have to speak I try not to have any alcohol or really very little for up to a week in advance.  For me the difference is dramatic.  I read the submission on caffeine and I think alcohol abstinence is crucial too.
 

Prominently Promoted...

....I have been promoted to a prominent position within my company where I am expected to participate at conferences by speaking, being part of panels etc... I have lots of valuable information to share but when I open my mouth to convey my thoughts, they come out quickly, jumbled and shaky! Some days are worse than others. I have been this way my whole life and am afraid I am going to hold my career back if I cannot do something about this.
 

Public Sector Worker

Hi I work in the public sector. I face clients every day. Even though I speak good English, time to time I tumble and find hard to speak to some body or explain things. Often i lost for words. My work place few people commented about that and one perticular woman always make remarks about speaking skills with her friends around me. She never approached me and told me any thing so I found if hard to find a ground to retaliate or respond to her comments. When these people make comments around me I found it hard and harder to speak when they are around me. These days I feel very isolated and lots of people try to avoid me. I got a nice house hold and two kids so their company is not that important to me. So I did not try to go after them searching for a topic for a conversation. Then what happen is they attack me more. Some people who were nice to me before do not talk to me after talking to the people who avoid me. Some times they all get together and look at me as a group from distance and all of sudden they burst in to a laugh. I don't know the reason, but when I look at them it's like they are making fun of me. When they gather and talk I tried to go and join them then they dissolved into different directions. It is not easy at the present. but nobody told me whats going on. One male officer who work with me greets to me every moring several times. and what he did was tell people who are around him to watch and came to me and started me greeting for several times. First I responded to him. Then I told him not to do that as I found him making fun of me. I told him that I don't like what he is doing. When he continue to do that I stopped responding to him. Now he and his two male friends and one female friend all do not speak to me and some times do not give me a space to work. and They go around and talk to the others and laugh infront of me. I do not want to be in this shift but with my kids I can't go to another place to work.

 
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